I’m officially on cloud nine. We’ve completed our first two week of homeschooling and are moving along quite nicely. Though we still have 171 days to go, I am so overjoyed that we have gotten off to such a great start. My enthusiasm, however, has not been matched by everyone. Which sadly isn’t too surprising. Because when you say you’re homeschooling there’s no shortage of the variety and volume of questions you’ll be peppered with. Or the responses and unsolicited advice you’ll be offered. So I find it fitting to categorize these groups with my nifty label maker wink wink.
- Greeters- This group is your fellow homeschoolers. Many are ready to help you navigator through the process and share helpful tips. Though everyone won’t be homeschooling using the same method or curriculum for that matter, these ladies (and gentlemen) can relate. They know your struggles and joys. As well as your fears and sense of accomplishment. They are unique and invaluable.
- Curious Onlookers- Here we have individuals with questions ranging from, “Why are you homeschooling?” to “How difficult is it to get started?” With time and experience, I’m learning how to handle these questions. With family/friends, I’m willing to go into detail. But if I have to defend my family’s choice then I cut it off. And with strangers, I keep it short and straightforward. However, if they show sincere interest in homeschooling, then I’m at their disposal. My suggestion when chatting it up with someone from this group is to pay attention to the types of questions they’re asking. You’ll be able to identify if they are simply curious, or if they are secretly masking their true identity (aka the naysayers).
- Cheerleaders- This is your cheering squad. Though they aren’t homeschoolers, they are excited for you and your kiddos all the same. Their loyalty is unmistakable. They ask questions to understand and support you 100%. They’re only second to the greeters when it comes to encouraging and applauding you along your journey.
- Cautious Supporters- This group can be a little confusing. For example, they can like your homeschooling post/pictures one minute, but then ask you when your kids will be returning to school the next. Maybe part of them really does want to see you succeed. But if you show any signs of struggle or disappointment along the way…well they’re not going to be your shoulder to cry on.
- Neutral Zoners- Don’t know anyone in this group. Well, take a minute. Do you have someone in your life that doesn’t ask how things are going, yet never says anything negative about your educational choice? These folks are rare but do exist. And honestly, I prefer to the next group.
- Naysayers- These people oppose the very idea of homeschooling. Finding you ridiculous or even neglectful as a parent for choosing such a path. And oddly (or maybe not so odd) this group has done little research to support their personal opinions. If you find these people in your inner circle, it can make things very difficult. And down right uncomfortable. But stay focus. You’re not homeschooling to prove anything to them. So when possible cut these people out of your life. Otherwise, agree to disagree and move on. You can’t please everyone, so don’t waste your time trying.
How you choose to educate your child is a personal choice. So don’t allow others judgements or misconceptions to cause you to question your calling. Whether this is temporary or a life long decision enjoy the journey…label maker out