I’m guilty of occasionally following what’s going on in the ‘celebrity world’. But I was surprised to see that Eva Mendes was in the headlines for upsetting a number of people by what she said. Apparently, she was talking about life as a new mom and made the statement that the #1 cause of divorce is sweatpants. Now, I’m of course not quoting her interview completely, but that statement got her in hot water.
Now there are two ways you can look at this. If she was serious when she made the statement, then I would have cropped it to being a Hollywood thing. Let’s be honest these people don’t live in the same world we do. So things that are normal to them could be things we find completely ridiculous and vice versa. So if she was speaking from the heart and passing judgement then that’s a reflection on her, and her marriage and not a reputation of some universal truth.
But on the other hand if she was joking then, from my perspective, it was kind of funny and harmless. Think about the things you say in conversations with your friends. Half the things that come out of our mouths could be misread if someone outside of our group heard it and didn’t know us. Now going back to her interview early on she was asked what she’d call her style, and her response was feminine. She said she felt more comfortable in dresses and skirts. So her poking fun at sweatpants could have been her way of generally thumbs downing pants altogether because she doesn’t like them. Which still seems harmless because its just one persons personal opinion.
But whether she was sharing her true opinion or simply joking around my question is, why did so many get so upset? Of course race, religion, sex, and gender (to name only a few) are truly hot button topics. And those topics need to be treated with respect and sensitivity, but are we as a society so fragile that when a celebrity for example, says something we have put on our war paint if we don’t agree?
For me when it comes to style I’d say my varies depending a great deal on what I’m dressing for. I enjoy dressing up for work and special occasions. But I know in my heart that I wouldn’t feel comfortable wear those same clothes while grocery shopping or at my son’s baseball game. And though I haven’t owned a pair of sweatpants since high school I do love to rock my yoga pants round the house. And yoga pants are really just the little sister of the sweatpants. Now, I say all of that because when I watched Eva Mendes interview I didn’t feel that she was being judging and belittling.
And to be clear (because I hate being misunderstood) I’m not giving a pass to those that would use their words to cut others down, or call people to act hatefully/violently against others. But to think we are living in a world where a woman (who yes happens to be famous) makes a comment about clothing and its making waves, doesn’t that seem a bit extreme. Let’s take a step back and stop trying to find reasons to attack each other and everything we say. Because I don’t think all of this is 100% just about her comment. Now this may be me reading too much into things, but this could be more about us as women being catty. We can be so unforgiving and ruthless towards one another sometimes.
So Eva (not that I think this simple blog will reach you) I want you to know that I don’t see why what you said has so many people talking…including me lol You made a comment that many of us would have made (about something just as random) and won’t have given it a second thought. So don’t beat yourself up over it. As a woman, and fellow mother I support you. Not because I’ll agree with every single thing you’ll ever say, but because I don’t believe there was any judgement or meanness intended in your statement. All of us moms need to stick together rather then stand apart.
Oh and p.s. I loved your come back response 😉 https://instagram.com/p/0cPzdDBJvD/?taken-by=evamendes
So what you do all think about Eva’s comment?